Whether they’re incredibly particular, noncommittal, or someone who claims to "not want anything," finding the perfect gift for them can feel like a Herculean task.
But don’t worry! With a bit of thought, creativity, and strategy, you can still find something that’ll bring a smile to even the trickiest person’s face this Christmas. Here’s how to go about it.
1. Understanding Their Preferences (Even if They Seem Nonexistent)
The first step is to try and understand what makes them tick. Some “difficult” recipients simply have very specific preferences, while others don’t necessarily realise what they want until they see it. Take a moment to think about their hobbies, interests, lifestyle, and any preferences they’ve subtly (or not so subtly) mentioned in the past.
Consider asking these questions:
Do they love trying new things, or are they creatures of habit?
Are they more interested in experiences or items?
Do they lean towards practicality or sentimentality?
If you’re not certain, talking to those close to them or subtly listening in when they mention things they like or enjoy can provide you with some valuable clues.
2. Go for Quality Over Quantity
Often, people with very particular tastes will appreciate something well-made over a pile of generic items. Instead of going for multiple smaller gifts, think about a single, high-quality gift that aligns with their interests. Quality items show thoughtfulness, and they often suit even those with discerning taste.
For example, a top-quality wool scarf for someone who values winter fashion, or a beautifully crafted notebook for the friend who loves jotting down ideas, shows that you’ve made a meaningful choice.
3. Personalised Gifts – When Done Right
Personalisation can be tricky, but when it’s done thoughtfully, it can result in a truly cherished gift. Avoid simply slapping their initials on a mug and instead focus on items they would genuinely use. A leather wallet embossed with their initials, a set of monogrammed bath towels, or a custom recipe book with their favourite dishes (especially if they’re a foodie!) can go a long way in adding a thoughtful touch.
Tip: Consider their sense of style when personalising; some people prefer minimalism, while others love a touch of uniqueness.
4. Experience Gifts for the Person Who “Doesn’t Want Anything”
If they’re someone who insists they don’t want any material gifts, think outside the box and gift an experience instead. Experience gifts range from spa days and wine tasting tours to online classes or cooking workshops. The great thing about experiences is that they leave lasting memories, making them perfect for those who already “have everything.”
Consider these experiences:
A weekend staycation at a charming B&B
Tickets to a show, concert, or sports event they’d enjoy
A cooking or crafting class they’ve been interested in
An experience shows that you’re giving them something beyond the tangible and providing them with something to look forward to.
5. Subscription Services – For Long-Term Enjoyment
Subscriptions are gifts that keep on giving – quite literally. There’s a subscription service for almost every interest, from monthly book clubs and coffee samplers to flower deliveries and wellness boxes. Subscriptions let you tailor the gift to their interests while ensuring they think of you throughout the year.
Subscription ideas include:
A monthly magazine subscription related to their hobby or profession
A streaming service they’ve been wanting to try
A gourmet snack box that delivers treats from around the world
6. Opt for Something Useful (And Unexpectedly Delightful)
If your recipient is known for being practical or difficult to impress, consider choosing something that’s highly useful – yet something they might not think to buy for themselves. This could be anything from luxury skincare items to unique kitchen gadgets or even a portable coffee maker for someone who travels frequently.
Some ideas include:
A high-quality reusable water bottle for the eco-conscious
A beautifully designed planner for the organiser in your life
A multi-tool for the avid DIYer
7. Give the Gift of Choice
If they’re truly impossible to shop for, give them the gift of choice – a gift card. But go for something more thoughtful than a general voucher. Think of stores or services they genuinely like and let them have the pleasure of picking out their gift themselves.
Opt for gift cards for:
A local independent bookstore for the reader
An upmarket kitchenware shop for the home chef
A boutique clothing shop if they love fashion
While some may say gift cards are impersonal, a carefully chosen one actually shows you’ve paid attention to their interests. Plus, it’s better to give them the power to choose than risk something that will gather dust.
8. Consider Handmade or DIY Gifts for Sentimentality
Sometimes, the most cherished gifts aren’t the most expensive but the ones with a personal touch. If your recipient appreciates sentimental or unique gifts, consider creating something handmade or DIY. A handmade scarf, a set of homemade jams, or even a scrapbook filled with photos and memories can go a long way in showing care and thoughtfulness. Plus, DIY gifts can be a fun way to put your own personality and affection into a present.
A Thoughtful Approach Wins Every Time
At the end of the day, the goal is to show thoughtfulness and care. Even for the most “problematic” recipients, a well-considered gift can be a lovely gesture, especially when it aligns with their tastes or interests. Remember, the perfect gift doesn’t have to be extravagant – it just has to show you’ve taken the time to understand and appreciate the person you’re shopping for.
This Christmas, tackle the challenge head-on and relish the joy that comes with finding that perfect gift – even for the most difficult-to-please person in your life!